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Mon, 05 May 2008 16:00:00 +0000

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By: littlem

littlem — Mon, 10 Sep 2007 00:17:33 +0000

“Have you ever been really screwed over or hurt by a woman you saw as your friend, or as someone who should be your friend?”

Yes. When it’s someone who you thought was a sista, it truly hurts worse. I’m sure a lot of sisters on the thread share experiences, so I will not elaborate today.

“Do you believe in sisterhood?”

Still and Yes. Despite the above.

This site, for example, is a good example of it. So thank you for being here for us, bella.

By: Shaquana

Shaquana — Sun, 27 May 2007 14:35:21 +0000

Peace to all the Afrobellas. I just discovered this site. Better late than never. Love it!
I am a newly turned 30 year old honey hued Afrobella. I have been growing my locs since 94!!!!!!! I truuly believe in sisterhood. I love my sistas. They make me proud. I don’t have any biological sista’s but I feel a profound connection to womyn. I know negative things happen, especially in this era of competition and individualism. We are Queens, it is time for us to reclaim our rightful place. There is room for all of us to represent wherever we are. The universe is infinite. Let’s uplift each other.

By: MOKAQT

MOKAQT — Fri, 06 Apr 2007 11:07:08 +0000

Bella, Continue to do what you are doing because we love this site, as you can see. It’s sad that the few have to ruin it for the many of us who enjoy frequenting this site with rude and unecessary comments. Fortunately I haven’t seen any of them, and you have been doing an excellent job of keeping them out. I know that sometimes you get those occasional comments that slip through the cracks but remember, they are from people who do not want to move forward and prosper mentally, but rather bring you to their level. (but being educated you already know that Bella)

As far as having black female friends, they are very hard to come by or even keep. I work with 16 other guys and 1 other girl (Samoan) and we get along fine but we dont hang outside of work. It’s so hard to meet other black women especially in Germany because they are so bitter because many of the black men here are chasing the German women and any woman is seen as competition or threat. The black women here seem to have turned against one another purely out of hurt. It’s sad here in Germany Bella. Very sad.

By: JUstMYwOrD

JUstMYwOrD — Tue, 03 Apr 2007 20:44:30 +0000

Bella, I really see your sincerity in promoting something positive for readers to digest, and I appreciate your energy…so don’t let the negative rob you of an ounce of your gift! I agree with your Dad (and how kool is it that your Dad supports you and reads your site?!–that’s awesome), the negative will always be there and to focus on it would cause you to get “stuck” and like I already said, you’re much too gifted for that. What you bring to your readers is appreciated. Although I see your reasons for wanting to explore the breakdown of sisterhood, I truthfully feel this will only have people re-hashing dark roads that lead to no where in regards to understanding why people in general spread hatred. Truthfully the reasons and root of any type of hatred, even self-hatred, would require a history lesson that most people don’t even care to explore–so you can’t force feed it to them. But their negativity is no reflection on the classiness of this site and next time, you do what you have to, even if that means deleting some people’s comments. The good news is, whether we’ve been victimized by an act of hatred or been the perpetrator of one, the solution to ending it is simple, and requires nothing but a made up mind, and the more determined the mind is, the more it will search for understanding as to how to effectively love our fellow sister/brother and move past/forgive the incidents of betrayal and deciet.

By: Emily

Emily — Mon, 02 Apr 2007 20:11:58 +0000

Thanks LBellatrix I found a natural hair salon in the ATL ….wish me luck!

By: Stacey

Stacey — Mon, 02 Apr 2007 16:44:22 +0000

Continue to do your thing mama, don’t let the haters get in your way for every one person doing their thing, there is like 50 people tryin to tear them down, just do what you do and don’t pay them no mind!!much love

By: LBellatrix

LBellatrix — Sat, 31 Mar 2007 22:18:00 +0000

Emily, in the other thread I referred you to http://www.nappturality.com. With all due respect to NaturallyCurly, Nappturality is much more focused on type 4 hair (and, to some extent, type 3 hair) and ways to care for it without heat and chemicals. It’s also more focused on learning to APPRECIATE this hair type in its natural state, and this firm stance sometimes rubs people the wrong way. But a lot of us 4′s are tired of being made to feel bad for wanting to wear our hair natural. Nappturality is full of nappy sisterhood.

To the subject: Bella, you don’t need another person telling you to keep the faith, but I will anyway. I grew up in a house full of sisters and went to all-girl schools. I actually made it all the way to my 30s before I picked up on how SOME women tear each other down due to insecurity, etc.

I still believe in sisterhood. I would never write off all women completely because of a few b****es. Just keep on staying true to yourself and your mission. I’m a fan!

By: kia

kia — Fri, 30 Mar 2007 17:21:10 +0000

wow! what a response! i usually like to read the comments and feed off of those too, but there are too many this time, lol.
i’m glad you did this post. i truly believe in sisterhood too. probably because i have 3 sisters and we are all close. when i hear of siblings that aren’t, it baffles me. but then i have to settle with the fact that that is reality for some folk. this bond between my sisters and I give me a ground for extending the love to other ladies. i believe in lifting each other up out here. it’s hard at times being a young, black, female, educated, and optimistic (believe it or not) and not getting respect from a number of channels and to turn around and getting the same hate from someone who looks like you. sad! i’m a part of your sisterhood bella!