Comments on: Ask Afrobella — Love Me, Love My Hair?

By: Shyra AD

Shyra AD — Sat, 04 Sep 2010 23:01:51 +0000

I need help!!!!!! I have been natural now for 5 1\2 years. I did my cut on impuse did’nt even think twice. I ma happy with it. I need to know what to do with it now that my AFRO has gotten so big. I did a two strand twist out and frizzed up in a day. I get the stares from males and females. I have heard the commets both sides, some are good some are bad. I have done the AFRO puff ponytail. Do’nt want to keep pulling it back. pls help like I know you can.

Thanks in advance!!!

By: Stringerbell

Stringerbell — Thu, 01 Jan 2009 12:15:54 +0000

Please Help Me. I am wearing my hair locked for five years. Now within the past 6 months, my hairline has thinned and rapidly the rest of my scalp. I am talking hormones for surgical menapause for the past 5 yrs. I take B6 vitamins and use good moisturizing products. What should I do. I don’t want to lose any more hair. What more can I do?

By: Mercy P

Mercy P — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 21:22:02 +0000

My daughter, Heather is bi-racial (hispanic/black) & has very coarse hair. Her hair has a relaxer, so it is straight. It has been 4 months sincer her last relaxer treatment. One of her friend’s (also bi-racial) has done the Japanese hair straightner treatment instead of the relaxer and her hair texture is just like the relaxer. Well Heather would like to try the Japanese hair straightner treatment. My question is: would you recommend this treatment? Does it matter since she has done the relaxer in the past? Is 4 months long enough to do a different treatment and will not affect her hair texture. Do not want her hair to fall off because of not knowing much about black hair. Have asked white stylists and they do not know. Have asked ethnic stylists and they do not recommend it. My daughter can not stand the scalp burn of the chemicals relaxer and wants to do the Japanese treatment. What do you recommend?

By: Natural Beauty « Kasalina’s Weblog

Natural Beauty « Kasalina’s Weblog — Wed, 22 Oct 2008 21:45:14 +0000

[...] It Kinky has some great hairstyles, look at it when you have a moment. Charcoalink and Afrobella both have interesting posts on natural hair. Possibly related posts: (automatically [...]

By: Natural ladies and those on the verge, here’s a link to an interesting read from Afrobella on the subject « Affrodite’s Adventures in Nappy Hair

Wed, 08 Oct 2008 07:02:06 +0000

[...] by ifelicious on October 8, 2008 In Afrobella’s post, LOVE ME, LOVE MY HAIR?, Afrobella shares a letter from a married gal looking to go natural and the struggle she has [...]

By: Bert Daniel

Bert Daniel — Sat, 04 Oct 2008 15:25:21 +0000

Congratulations to Mama and Papa Bella on your fortieth wedding anniversary.

Bert Daniel (Orlando USA)

By: Imla

Imla — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 23:41:08 +0000

After 6 years natural, my husband still prefers my hair straight, but that is his preference, not mine. Everyone is not going to agree with your decision to be natural, but over time, you’ll care less and less about what they think. I say do what “YOU” feel.

By: The Frugalista Files

The Frugalista Files — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 23:04:00 +0000

I think that her hubby needs to calm down. I’m on the India.Arie plan: I AM NOT MY HAIR.

By: qselby

qselby — Sun, 21 Sep 2008 20:44:45 +0000

Is it me or do the lot of Black men have hang ups about natural hair….I personally believe its in part due to misguided beauty ideals. They all want us to have that long flowing straight hair from that damn Pantene Pro V commercial, lol! I personally have had to defend my natural hair to my family, boyfriends, and people I don’t even know on the street. I have had guys fall over me when my hair is pressed out and not even recognize me when it is natural. My last boyfriend actually said to me ..”you need to stop not trying to be white and just go get a perm”…”it’s amazing how you look when your hair is straight” implying that my pressed hair trumps my natural dos. I guess what I’m trying to say (hope I don’t sound too bitter) but finding a black man who actually embraces women with natural hair is kind of hard. They are out there…but rare. They don’t seem to understand the importance of acknowledging our (black women’s) natural beauty. I don’t know how we can get them on board, but I hope more brothers come around. I just feel like they should be the main ones backing us. It’s disappointing to continuously encounter guys that do otherwise.

As for advice..he could come around and support you. And yeah, he should like you for who you are not your hair, but the real tip changing a persons mindset doesn’t happen overnight and it may not happen at all. You have to make sure going natural is really want YOU desire and wear your hair PROUDLY! Cuz, the comments may not stop. When you have the glow of confidence and happiness, you know once you make your decision, he may love you for finding a piece of yourself. And God willing you may help him see the beauty in his own self. Best of Luck and many Blessings!

By: GA Girl

GA Girl — Sun, 21 Sep 2008 04:57:20 +0000

I decided to go natural last summer. I told my husband I was going to cut my hair off. His reply was “the clippers are in the closet”. He even tightened up my little ceasar. He was really supportive, he would even buy me new hair products to try. Months later he told me that he didn’t like my hair when it was short. That let me know he would support me no matter if he liked my decision or not. I hope your fiance learns to me more understanding & supportive of you & your decisions.

I have also learned that there is no marriage without compromise. You have to ask yourself is the issue really worth fighting for. If it is you still have to be prepared to compromise chances are if he feels strongly he may only give a little.

I don’t know what your going to do about his mama though. But I do know 3′s a crowd in a marriage.

I hope they let you breathe at least until your baby is born. You don’t need the stress right now.

Take care of yourself

GA Girl