Comments on: Health, Body and Fitness. My Issues. My Journey.

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Meet Renisha. Get Renewed. | Afrobella — Mon, 26 Jul 2010 17:10:27 +0000

[...] = 'afrobella';So OK – I’ve dropped hints and briefly discussed my new attitude to weight loss recently, but I haven’t gotten down to the nitty gritty. For years it’s been a struggle for me [...]

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By: jen

jen — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 08:22:22 +0000

Hi Bella!

I really like your blog, and I pray that you have a wonderful journey to fitness! I know that you can do it. I don’t know if you’ve heard about it, but I recently read “Women, Food, and God” by Geneen Roth (she was on Oprah) and it was a real eye-opener about food and life- not just another diet or set of rules, but a revelation. Of course, since I am a Christian, some of my beliefs were different than hers, but there was a central theme that I really had to agree with: the interconnectedness of the way we view food and the way we view life. It was a helper for me!

By: BlackBetty

BlackBetty — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 19:17:34 +0000

Thanks for the interview Bella.
As a woman who has struggled with my weight, had many ups and downs for more than a decade, I can proudly say that I’ve dropped 40lbs and am under the 200lb mark for the first time in more than 12 years!
Don’t beat yourself up over not sticking to your plan.
The energy you give to others, to your work, to your dreams, give some to yourself. None of that happens when you are last on your list.
When I didn’t want to wake up 30 minutes early to work out at home (I hate the gym), I had to talk to myself to see if that sleep would get me to my goals. It won’t!
Read the ingredients in everything you buy, most of the ingredients are so creepy you’ll be more than happy to leave it on the shelf.
Just make time for you and be patient. When it becomes a lifestyle change, it’ll get easier. And if you fall off that wagon, strap on your boots, climb on board, try again!

By: bella

bella — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 15:33:35 +0000

PLEASE do and I will keep you posted on mine!

By: bella

bella — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 14:57:49 +0000

it’s a perpetual challenge, isn’t it?? I continue to struggle. Right now my goal isn’t to achieve a certain size, it’s just to regain control of my health. I don’t want to feel breathless and out of shape anymore!

By: Erika

Erika — Wed, 07 Jul 2010 06:03:43 +0000

I hear you. I have those same health issues in my family. I’m overweight as well but losing weight very slowly. The scale hasn’t moved (as far as lighter), but my clothes are bigger. That has to mean something right?

Anywho, I’m going to try going the same route you’re on; focusing on whole health and not just numbers. Feeding the body and soul. You have to be healthy inside and out!

You have my prayers and support. I know we both, and other sistas out there who are trying, can do this.

To health!

By: bella

bella — Tue, 06 Jul 2010 19:00:43 +0000

thanks for calling that negative post to my attention. I will do a better job of monitoring these comments!

By: bella

bella — Tue, 06 Jul 2010 19:00:06 +0000

Wow. I didn’t notice this comment until Uhura responded – my sincerest apologies for not doing a better job of monitoring these comments. You give nurses a bad name, with your attitude. This post is about beginning a journey and uplifting others. Feeling empowered to change. You’ve done the opposite with your words. I encourage debate and dialogue, but if this is the best you have to offer I really would rather you find another blog to comment on.

Freeyourheart – I am SORRY this made it on my page. Please feel free to continue speaking your truth. This won’t happen again on Afrobella.

By: uhura

uhura — Tue, 06 Jul 2010 18:54:34 +0000

I was sad to read your reply. It’s so venomous, filled with judgement and negativity disguised as “truth”.

You said you’re a nurse. If that’s true, then you should know that making people feel bad or worse about themselves and their condition rarely motivates them to embrace long term changes. You should also be aware of how hard it is to seek physical and mental help when those who give it are condescending, hurtful, and mean.

It also sounds like you equate being thing with being healthy. As if you equate being thin with being attractive and desireable.

Also, you don’t know that she doesn’t “look” 261 pounds, because weight looks different on everyone. Most people picture morbidly obese images they’ve seen on tv when they hear you’re over 150lbs.

Even if she starts her journey TODAY, she’s not going to be skinny overnight. Not in a week, not in a month, not 6 months – maybe a year. Maybe two. And while she’s doing the work and getting the help she needs, how supportive are you being with your ignorant commentary disguised as concern?

I’m overweight. And as I’ve had to tell a few people – I likely eat better than you and work out more frequently. Don’t pre judge me based on the body you think you see. Plenty of skinny people aren’t healthy. There are all kinds of reasons people gain weight that don’t include sitting on the couch eating chips all day.

And lastly, as a nurse, I would hope that you have had some training to better communicate with your patients. Get to the reasons *why* – only then can you tackle the *how*.