Comments on: Ask Afrobella — Teenage Love and Natural Hair

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By: Leslie

Leslie — Wed, 29 Dec 2010 01:01:56 +0000

Hi,
I have very tightly,coiled,thick and dry hair and I’m not sure what product I should try. Should I try the Miss Jesse’s or Kinky Curly for best results? I have been growing out my perm and flat ironinon every couple of weeks, for about 3 months but want to give the heat up. Please help

Thanks

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By: Parisvision16

Parisvision16 — Mon, 23 Aug 2010 22:41:50 +0000

I am 16 as well and I have been natural for about a year. I have found that I get more compliments about my natural curly hair then when it was straight, and it really boosts my confidence. I wish had a friend like Megan because many girls my age (preferably Black girls) wear fake weaves and outrageous colors in their hair and it is just sad and pathetic. I do feel some times like Megan that boys don’t find me attractive because of my hair, but then a lot of times I just remember that I’m unique from other girls my age because my hair doesn’t follow the straight and fake quota, and that I should to embrace who I am . Great advice Bella it has really helped me, and I hope that it has helped Megan as well.

By: DivaisQu33n

DivaisQu33n — Mon, 23 Aug 2010 19:25:31 +0000

Hello Afrobella & bloggers! All of your comments have resonated with me in some way. I’ll soon be 30 and I’ve decided to go natural in the next 2 months and I’m doing research which lead me to this page. I’m at work but I couldn’t help but read this entire artice and comments. Here I am so anxious about making this change, letting go of my ‘natural weave’ (silly me) & embracing my hair AS it grows out my head. I’ve told my freinds and family about my plans to get locks, and to my disapointment NO ONE has anything positive to say about it. Even my own gramdmother made a snarl at me! Im so saddened and discouraged at how we have literally been brainwashed to reject our natural selves. All of my friends are so ‘IMAGE CONSCIOUS’ and place way to much value on the outer person, I’m guilty of this as well, as I wanted to fit in and swing my pocahontas weave down to my butt! Sorry to ramble about this but Its really been weighing on me…
anyhow, I’m going to need support through this transition (I’m afraid to even tell my man) & I always notice that sisters that are natural have a poisitive air about them and I welcome those sisters to contact me with advice, tips, or just to say hello. Stay blessed! PIN me 224D24E5

By: Jozelle

Jozelle — Sat, 07 Aug 2010 15:36:35 +0000

good post i just ran into this site and i find it rather interesting because i had natural hair all my life and everyone wonders if it’s a religious choice i often lol because its just a personal choice. I’m 18 and i live in the Caribbean and we are so scarred by western culture and often long to fit into the status-quo it is true that boys find natural hair intimidating it may be because we see no fear in being who we truly are but never the less my significant other would die if i did anything to my hair this just goes to show that different is not always bad it’s all about self acceptance loving you and not looking for acceptance and with that things should fall into place.

By: Megan

Megan — Mon, 02 Aug 2010 04:44:13 +0000

Thanks again for all the advice! I will try to send Afrobella a picture soon, so she can see what I look like. And maybe she will share it with you guys! (O please be sure to check out my new blog! More posts are coming soon!)

By: Briana

Briana — Sat, 31 Jul 2010 04:11:21 +0000

One of my best friends has been rocking her natural locks for 4 years now, and it hasn’t gotten in the way of her dating! I think it truly takes a mature man to appreciate natural hair. I’m still not quite there yet but I think I’ll be ready in the next few years or so. I read a post on Urban Belle Magazine, an online magazine for women of color, that had a few good reasons to go natural (http://www.urbanbellemag.com/2010/03/reasons-to-go-natural.html). I say to Megan, don’t let these boys get in the way of what YOU’RE doing. There will come a man who will truly appreciate your natural style.

By: Nia

Nia — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 06:59:03 +0000

Why am I crying? This is such a beautiful connection of sisterhood! Thank you Bella for being such an inspiration to young women…and to those of us who still at times struggle with BEING in an image focused world. Thank you Sisters for loving one another. It truly takes a village to raise confident women. And, thank you Megan for having the courage to become the woman that the Creator designed you to BE–Authentically You!..Blessings to ALL

By: Imani Strong

Imani Strong — Fri, 23 Jul 2010 21:09:37 +0000

Thank you so much, both of you: Megan for your brave question, and AfroBella for your insightful response. After reading it, I almost had tears in my eyes.

It has been such a struggle for me. I went natural my junior year of high school and was known as “the girl with the ‘fro.” I even got a section in the yearbook, but I felt boxed in. I wanted a “normal” senior year. I wanted to be accepted and blend in, so I relaxed my hair again before if was time to take my senior pictures.

I went natural again in the middle of my freshman year of college and I have stayed natural. I will be starting my junior year in the fall. However, I have felt so much pain going to parties and clubs with my friends and not being “picked” or seen by guys. I think that very many ARE intimidated by my hair because natural hair means that you have learned to love yourself as God made you despite what societies beauty conventions say that a beautiful woman should look like. It says that you have courage enough to show your whole face and your true self and hide nothing behind weaves and chemicals and long, straight hair. It shows that you think outside the box.

It’s still hard, however, to appreciate that when all you want is to find the right guy (or a right-now guy) only to feel that your hair is too much for all the guys you know.

I’m staying natural, this time too, Megan. You picked up on one of the aspects of going natural that they don’t always tell you about at the salon, that you can’t anticipate. We’re not gonna let it stop us, though, and the right guy will come and he will LOVE it!

Stay beautiful.