Comments on: My Thoughts on Hair Touching http://www.afrobella.com/2011/08/16/my-thoughts-on-hair-touching/ Natural Hair, Beauty, Fashion and Makeup Blog Fri, 06 May 2016 04:17:35 +0000 hourly 1 By: NoOneImportant http://www.afrobella.com/2011/08/16/my-thoughts-on-hair-touching/#comment-4622029 Sun, 01 May 2016 05:47:49 +0000 http://www.afrobella.com/?p=6559#comment-4622029 I absolutely hate having my hair touched. It happens so often to me and I am NOT a touchy-feely person. My hair is touched on average 2-4 times a week–and usually by strangers or co-workers and I don’t feel that it’s appropriate for the workplace or strangers to ask to touch your hair, or touch it without permission. Why? Because–I don’t do it to them. I never touch other people and I have never felt the need to reach out and touch someone’s hair–especially ones I don’t know.

This is a huge violation of my personal space and 99% it is a white person that does this. In one week, I had 9 people–2 of which were strangers either ask to touch or touched my hair without my permission. Perhaps if it happened once in a blue moon, even though it would still irritate me, I probably wouldn’t care as much…but this happens with such frequency that it makes me feel super uncomfortable.

Another very uncomfortable thing that happens when they touch my hair is me having to explain to them things about my hair that confuse them–and I just get tired of it. Yes, I have great hair, and yes, I do amazing styles with my hair…but I really feel like my head or any other part of my body is a look but don’t touch area.

I really wish people would respect my boundaries and not feel like they are entitled to touch me in any area of my body that they wish at any time. Sorry…I don’t feel comfortable with that and I have the right to say when and how people are allowed to touch me.

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By: Toni http://www.afrobella.com/2011/08/16/my-thoughts-on-hair-touching/#comment-1330001 Thu, 18 Jul 2013 17:11:36 +0000 http://www.afrobella.com/?p=6559#comment-1330001 She didn’t over react. That dialogue ran though her head only. Has nobody read the original article? I don’t know if the lady who wanted to touch her hair was racist, but I can definitely tell that she was entitled.

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By: Brittany http://www.afrobella.com/2011/08/16/my-thoughts-on-hair-touching/#comment-1325092 Fri, 10 May 2013 22:50:17 +0000 http://www.afrobella.com/?p=6559#comment-1325092 Yes! Same here! My mother would get furious with me when I let people play in my hair: “DON’T LET THEM PUT THEY DUTTY HAND IN YA HEAD!!!!” LOL. But I love their reactions after they played with my braids or my twist-outs. I know a lot of women see it as a racial thing, like “Oh, I’m not some object to be fondled with!!”, but come on. Natural hair is unique, and with something that special people are going to be curious, so lighten up. Though I will say that common courtesy must be followed. If you don’t know them personally, ask. AND MAKE SURE YOUR HANDS ARE CLEAN. Don’t ask after you just used the toilet, and then expect them to say “Okay!” WASH YOUR PISSY HANDS. Ok, end rant. 😀

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By: Ardean http://www.afrobella.com/2011/08/16/my-thoughts-on-hair-touching/#comment-1232510 Fri, 11 Nov 2011 21:01:38 +0000 http://www.afrobella.com/?p=6559#comment-1232510 A stranger, no. Maybe we’re more polite here in Toronto 🙂
But for sure friends, acquaintances, family, with permission for the most part. Doesn’t bug me, cause I know it’s coming from a place for true curiosity and ignorance. But I don’t let them touch if it’s gonna mess up my style! 😀

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By: Patty http://www.afrobella.com/2011/08/16/my-thoughts-on-hair-touching/#comment-1226888 Fri, 28 Oct 2011 00:07:33 +0000 http://www.afrobella.com/?p=6559#comment-1226888 When someone asks to touch my fro or reaches out to touch it, I just reach out and touch their hair back and give my 100% honest assessment of what it feels like: thick, thin, stringy, heavy, light, dry, etc….whatever I feel I say. Unfortunately 99% of them do not have perfect hair so they aren’t always happy at what I say. 🙂

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By: Elle http://www.afrobella.com/2011/08/16/my-thoughts-on-hair-touching/#comment-1226013 Wed, 26 Oct 2011 00:39:17 +0000 http://www.afrobella.com/?p=6559#comment-1226013 Also…Sorry to be on a rant. What I find more annoying then a stranger being curious about my hair and having a momentary lapse in social niceties is how other black women react to natural hair. While natural hair is more prevalent now, my most embarrassing and annoying hair story happened in a black hair salon.

I was natural at the time and I wanted a blow out. Perhaps it was naive of me to think black women knew what to do with natural black hair. After trying to comb out my thick hair(with ONE hand), having the comb fly across the room, and dealing with every woman in that salon staring at me with a smirk, my stylist told me in a quite fed up tone that she couldn’t do anything with my hair unless I had a relaxer. I’ve had my natural hair blown out before, but I left the salon feeling ashamed like there was something wrong with me(again this was before the natural hair trend came back)and a few weeks later gave in and relaxed my hair again. Sometimes, we are our own worst enemy.

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By: Elle http://www.afrobella.com/2011/08/16/my-thoughts-on-hair-touching/#comment-1225973 Tue, 25 Oct 2011 22:53:11 +0000 http://www.afrobella.com/?p=6559#comment-1225973 When I first went natural and twisted my hair, it was the first time in my twenty one years of straightening that I got complimented multiple times a day…mostly by whites. At that time, the natural craze hadn’t really caught on and I still contend that I single-handedly started the twist hairstyle in the Washington DC/Maryland area. Then came the touching. It was mostly done by friends though, but it still made me slightly uncomfortable. Especially when they didn’t ask and since I had neck length twists, it wasn’t petting so much as gentle tugging followed by a “boingy-boingy” sound effect.

My discomfort I think mostly had to do with the sudden attention I garnered with the hair alone, when people see someone petting or pulling you hair in public I sort of wanted to hide. Also, I think our ancestry is ingrained in us so much so that for strange white people to treat us as their property to touch and then not understand why we get bent out of shape about it, outrages us.

I had one person say “It looks soft, like a sheep,” to which I replied, “I’m not a sheep. I am a human being.” You don’t get to touch a stranger because something on their body looks appealing. Most heterosexual men know that, because if that was okay they’d go around groping women’s breasts.

This natural hair thing is fairly new not only to white people but the our black community as well. I honestly think a lot of the hair touching is ignorance. As with any issue bread by ignorance, education is key, not attitude unless you want to continue another stereotype about black women.

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By: DivaKattGoddess http://www.afrobella.com/2011/08/16/my-thoughts-on-hair-touching/#comment-1225256 Mon, 24 Oct 2011 18:25:54 +0000 http://www.afrobella.com/?p=6559#comment-1225256 I know that it is a no no to touch someone’s hair. And I would never ever… unless invited or unless I ask first to touch anyone’s head or mane *pause*

So unless you are giving out head massages *pause again* keep your mitts to yourself!

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By: FitnessAngel http://www.afrobella.com/2011/08/16/my-thoughts-on-hair-touching/#comment-1215473 Tue, 04 Oct 2011 03:15:20 +0000 http://www.afrobella.com/?p=6559#comment-1215473 People are always reching out to touch my hair, I don’t like it and I have blocked many many touchers, it is an invasion of my personal space, I never reached out to touch anyone’s head, I don’t care if people get offend by me saying “NO”!, it’s rude, extremely unhealthy,& unsafe for me, “WHY??? Touch your own hair”, that’s always my response, “Look but Don’t Touch”

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By: Donella http://www.afrobella.com/2011/08/16/my-thoughts-on-hair-touching/#comment-1208559 Thu, 22 Sep 2011 18:41:29 +0000 http://www.afrobella.com/?p=6559#comment-1208559 Although I wear a twelve-inch afro (twists and puffs sometimes) I don’t deal with random strangers touching my hair or other part of my body. It doesn’t come up as an issue. People on the street instinctively know who they can “handle” and who will flip the f–k out and handle them back. I’m willing and able and most of all, ready, to handle back. I do receive questions, comments, and observations and I don’t mind those at all. Look, but don’t touch (unless you’re ready to deal).

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