My homegirl Renae of the ever-inspirational In Her Shoes blog put together a wonderful Father’s Day post featuring yours truly. I was asked to share the best wisdom my dad taught me over the years.


After considering all the priceless bon mots and tidbits of advice my father has offered over my 30 years of existence — some of which he has shared right here — it was difficult to choose the best. But I came up with this:

“When I was a rebellious teenage bella, my dad always repeated two phrases. The first was, “if you fail to prepare, prepare to fail.” We kids used to clown him for that cliche and it was repeated most often when we had to study for exams at school, but it’s proven to be so true in many other circumstances. My dad taught me the importance of hard work, focus, and diligence and those lessons have stood me in amazing stead. Without the lessons he taught me, I wouldn’t be Afrobella today.”

Very, very true.

So you may be wondering — what’s the second phrase? It’s this —

“there are mad people everywhere.”

And sometimes, they don’t know that they’re mad!

Mad meaning crazy, as the English tend to say. I know many of you know what I mean but I wanted to clarify. That particular piece of advice has saved me quite a bit of drama and heartache through the years.

My father is a very real, down to earth, smart, supportive man with a measured temper and a tendency to pontificate. That’s been passed along to me. I’m feeling a bit down that I couldn’t hear his voice today, but it’s for a great cause. He’s on a cruise with my mom! Happy Father’s Day, dad — wherever you are, know that I love you and respect you tremendously!

Thanks again to In Her Shoes for the opportunity.

What’s the best advice your father’s given you?

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